Sometimes I get inspired and I just have to start writing. Most of the time, I keep it private. If you know me well, this may be hard for you to believe, because I share my writing often. But I promise, for every one piece you see, there are probably 100 more that you don’t.
Sometimes, I write something that really seems to ring of truth. And usually those pieces are the ones that I feel like I should share. Because they need to be shared. Because someone out there somewhere, needs to read them. But then I chicken out and I keep it to myself.
Every so often, I rally up the courage to share these private pieces. Today is one of those days. Earlier today, I was writing a piece to remind myself how to get un-stuck. I know I’m not the only person in the world that gets stuck in their own stuff (even though sometimes I feel like I am.) That being the case, I hope at least one of you finds encouragement in what I’m sharing in today’s blog. Here goes…
Things I Think About
- They might not like what I sell.
- They might not buy it.
- They might not like ME.
- I don’t have enough money.
- I’m not good enough.
- I’m too scared.
- I might look silly.
- I don’t have enough time.
I could keep going. But I won’t. Because if there’s one thing I’ve learned over the last couple of years, it’s this:
We all have reasons why we can’t/shouldn’t/won’t. And most the time, those are the exact same reasons we can’t seem to get “un-stuck.”
Wait. You need to fix your thoughts on this for a moment. Read it again: We all have reasons why we can’t/shouldn’t/won’t. And most the time, those are the exact same reasons we can’t seem to get “un-stuck.”
Think about your life and where it is right now. Are you 100% satisfied with where you’re at in every facet of your life? With your income, your weight, your relationships, your…? (fill in the blank.)
If you answered yes, you’re amongst the .0000000000001% of people that feel that way. And you’re very, very fortunate.
If you’re like the rest of us, keep reading.
It’s Time To Change Things
— To free yourself from the bondage of your own mind
— To be acutely aware of what you allow yourself to think about.
— To be mindful of what you tell yourself.
— To get out of your own stinkin’ way.
There is a direct correlation between your thoughts and the reality that you’re creating for yourself.
Not sure you believe it? Conduct an experiment this week.
- Only allow yourself dwell on pure, noble and praiseworthy thoughts. [Warning: you may find this to be very challenging. Especially when “that” person shows up and says/does “that” thing that makes you want to beat your head against the wall. Or when “that” thing that always goes wrong, goes wrong again. These things can and will happen, so you will have to be very aware of where your mind goes and you will have to take steps to actively change what you’re thinking when you start to go there.]
- Only watch/read/listen to media that is encouraging, inspiring and uplifting. [Warning: what goes in, always goes out. Fill your mind with nasty and you will become nasty. That cynical show masked as a comedy that you watch? It’s impacting you. You may think it’s not. But it is. Be aware. And turn it off when you need to.]
- Only spend time with those that lift you up or those that you are actively lifting up yourself (rather than those that drag you down.) [Warning: if you hang around with a bunch of negative nellies, people stuck in victim status or people that have a million
reasonable reasons, um…I mean, excuses for not changing their miserable circumstances, you will likely become just like them. What is it that they say? You are the product of the 5 people you spend the most time with, right? Choose your people carefully.]
On that last point, I need to emphasize one thing. There is GREAT power in hanging around people that YOU are lifting up. In fact, serving those that are less fortunate is one of the most powerful ways to change your outlook on life. If you feel icky, like you don’t know how to get un-stuck, get your butt out of bed and go help someone that’s struggling more than you are. Volunteering. Changes. Everything.
How To Get Un-stuck Now In 5 Simple Steps
- Practice gratitude. Every time you say or even think something negative, make a choice to say or think about 3 things that are positive.
- Create a “win file.” The “win file” is the file folder you store all of your success stories in. Did you land a new client? “Win file” it. Did you turn a bad situation into a great learning experience? “Win file.”Did you reach a goal? Get it in the “win file.” You get the idea, right? If it’s good, it goes in the “win file” so that when it’s not so good, you can read about all of the wins and get yourself into a different place.
- Look for opportunities to learn from your challenging experiences. I’m a firm believer that God always brings beauty out of ashes. Be on the lookout for opportunities to grow–to become stronger, wiser, more resilient, more focused, more thoughtful, more sincere, or more whatever, from whatever life throws your way.
- Remember you’re not alone. There’s no way in the world you’re the only one that’s facing the circumstances you’re facing right now. Talking to others that have been where you’re at and made it to the other side, can provide great comfort. If you’re not in a mastermind group, you need to be. Your mastermind partners can help you navigate rough waters when you feel like your boat is about to sink because they can see things you can’t.
- Chat with positive people. Positivity is contagious. Call someone that’s winning and ask them to tell you what they’re doing to make things happen. Join a free Facebook group that’s filled with entrepreneurs that are committed to winning and frequently discussing proven strategies, tools, tips and tactics that you can very easily bring into your own business.
If you want to win, you have to choose to win! Yes, even when life hits you in the face and your circumstances stink. Because sometimes they just do. However, regardless of your circumstances, if your thoughts are in the right place, your attitude will be, too. And if your attitude is in the right place, you will win in more ways than you can imagine.
The choice is yours. {smooch!} Now, give yourself a high five, because, I think you’re awesome.
